Happiness comes from being who you actually are instead of who you think you are supposed to be.
As long as we stay in the dark about how we see the world and the wounds and beliefs that have shaped who we are, we’re prisoners of our history. We’ll continue going through life on autopilot doing things that hurt and confuse ourselves and everyone around us.
Questions are your pickaxes. Good questions are what open people up, open new doors, and create opportunities.
When we get lazy and stop investigating the facts behind our opinions, we’re prone to taking on the views of whoever we like reading or listening to at the time.
All of us would like to believe that we could accomplish one brave, selfless act for God and for His kingdom. But it takes greater courage to faithfully accomplish the daily, thankless tasks of everyday life for Him—being a father to our children, a good husband to our wives, building His temple one laborious block at a time.”
I don’t think I’m really listening unless I’m willing to be changed by the other person.
We are often pursuing the renewal of our circumstances, but God is pursuing the renewal of our entire identity.
Transformation always takes time, but time does not always bring transformation. Transformation into something greater takes a pilgrimage.
When you are connected with God and other people in life, you have a healthy soul.
One cannot change another person, though the temptation to try is always there. Change must come from within the self, for one’s own reasons. Differentiation in the other may be stimulated by one’s own efforts to differentiate a self, but the other cannot be encouraged, prodded, or advised in this respect. The impetus must come solely from within the self.