Quotes

As long as we stay in the dark about how we see the world and the wounds and beliefs that have shaped who we are, we’re prisoners of our history. We’ll continue going through life on autopilot doing things that hurt and confuse ourselves and everyone around us.

— Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

Questions are your pickaxes. Good questions are what open people up, open new doors, and create opportunities.

— Tim Ferris

Happiness comes from being who you actually are instead of who you think you are supposed to be.

— Shonda Rhimes, Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand In the Sun and Be Your Own Person

When you feel the need to apologize or explain who you are, it means the voice in your head is telling you the wrong story. Wipe the slate clean. And rewrite it.

— Shonda Rhimes, Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand In the Sun and Be Your Own Person

When we get lazy and stop investigating the facts behind our opinions, we’re prone to taking on the views of whoever we like reading or listening to at the time.

— Jenny Brown, Growing Yourself Up: How to bring your best to all of life’s relationships

We are often pursuing the renewal of our circumstances, but God is pursuing the renewal of our entire identity.

— David Lomas, D. R. Jacobsen, and Francis Chan, The Truest Thing about You: Identity, Desire, and Why It All Matters

When you are connected with God and other people in life, you have a healthy soul.

— John Ortberg, Soul Keeping: Caring For the Most Important Part of You

Transformation always takes time, but time does not always bring transformation. Transformation into something greater takes a pilgrimage.

— Gary Barkalow, It’s Your Call: What Are You Doing Here?

When our personalities are on autopilot they lull us into a half-sleeping state in which we find ourselves trapped in the same habitual, repetitious patterns of mindless reactivity we’ve been caught up in since childhood.

— Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

I don’t think I’m really listening unless I’m willing to be changed by the other person.

— Alan Alda, Clear+Vivid with Alan Alda